I used to compare Ben’s ways of consoling me to Jm’s ways. But then it took me a conversation with Janessa to realize that my expectations were wrong and unfair.
Ben’s ways are different, but that isn’t a bad thing. It just takes getting used to. Just because he doesn’t ask me if I’m okay the second time around, or doesn’t call me before I sleep, it doesn’t mean he cares any less. He’s a less vocal person than Jm, and I have to understand that. I may be used to Jm’s ways, but in time I will grow familiar to Ben’s. I can’t change a person.
People have different ways of professing how they feel. Ben’s may not be ideal or what I’m used to (because of Jm), but these ways are his own. Little by little, I will get used to it and eventually love it.
It’s important to understand what your lover is capable of giving you. Just because it isn’t the way you want it to be, it doesn’t make it mean any less.